{"id":747,"date":"2011-06-24T16:46:41","date_gmt":"2011-06-24T21:46:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/joannalark.com\/blog\/?p=747"},"modified":"2017-02-13T15:37:41","modified_gmt":"2017-02-13T20:37:41","slug":"submissive-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.joannalark.com\/blog\/submissive-girl","title":{"rendered":"Being a submissive girl… not really!"},"content":{"rendered":"

For a few months I had been delighted discovering my new self, the Dominatrix side of me.  I never had any doubts as to whether I was a Dom or a Sub but I was incredibly curious to see life from a sub\u2019s perspective.  There was also the fact that I had read so many times that to be a good Mistress you really need to be empathetic, know your subs and understand their motivations.  This is how I came to think that the best way to understand a sub was to be one.   When I talked about it to Joanna, she agreed with me and had the great idea of introducing me to Master Alan, a very good friend of hers. <\/p>\n

Master Alan was a gentleman from the very first minute I met him. To be honest I found it difficult to understand how such a caring and loving person could be a sadistic Master.  We immediately clicked and he agreed to help me explore my submissive side (if there was one) during that weekend. <\/p>\n

My day as a sub girl started with a photo-training session where Master Alan introduced me to the positions a subby girl should adopt in front of her Master.  I started very nervous, I didn\u2019t feel at ease kneeling down open legged or always keeping my eyes down, but soon Alan put me at ease and we had a fun time taking photos with some of Joanna\u2019s collection of bondage gear for women<\/span><\/a><\/strong>.  I enjoyed the photo session and all the beautiful leather clothing<\/span><\/a><\/strong> I was wearing but I couldn\u2019t really get into a sub girl\u2019s frame of mind.  Alan understood this and by the end of the photo session, instead of me playing Master\u2019s slave girl, I ended up learning how to properly use my new long leather whip<\/span><\/a> <\/strong>on any future subs.<\/p>\n

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Chains or whips?<\/p><\/div>\n

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The weekend went by and we attended a couple of events as Master and slave girl.  Alan was a complete sweetheart but I still didn\u2019t like at all being a subby girl.  Despite Alan\u2019s gentleness I couldn\u2019t get myself into a sub\u2019s frame of mind.  It just wasn\u2019t me.  Still I can say that I had a very productive weekend.  I learnt a whole lot of new things and I had lots of fun.  Probably more important than everything, I learnt that I was really a Dom and I could never be a sub to anyone.    <\/p>\n

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Master Alan trying to convince me…<\/p><\/div>\n

Another very important thing I learnt during those days was that being a Master or a Mistress is not about being cruel and abusive to your subs.  A real Dom is someone who cares for her subs and respects them.  Master Alan showed me how you could be a gentleman and still be a severe Master.  Punishing your subs doesn\u2019t always have to mean physical pain or torture.  Punishing a sub can take many different forms and one of them is withholding pleasure, teasing and denial, a form of mind game that I wasn\u2019t aware until then, even if I had done it a few times, only now I came to understand its power. <\/p>\n

Me, a Subby girl?  Not really\u2026.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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