I know, BDSM is just a play, so rules can be stretched and twisted. There are individual preferences and personal choices motivating us, when shopping for bondage gear. But how many times I heard at fetish market one Dominatrix saying to another, while trying to buy bondage harness – “I love this BDSM harness, but it’s too submissive”. Maybe you’ve encountered a situation, when a poor sub-girl, with tears in her eyes, was not allowed by her Master to have a unique leather harness. Why? Only because there were some spikes in the breast area which were making the outfit less “Dom friendly”. We all agree breast of slave-girl should be easily accessible and “defenceless”.
It’s important to make the right impression, when at fetish event, as the outfits we wear are often communicating what we are into. I also think many of excited submissive men will be grateful for advice in choosing a gift for choosy Mistress.
So, if you want to buy a bondage harness for her and ensure there won’t be a disappointment, I suggest you check few details to avoid embarrassing mistake:
Collar – is it designed to restrict movements, or maybe made of studded, spiked leather as decoration and jewellery? Is there a D-ring for a leash? There might be no collar at all!? Take a look at this unique leather buckled harness. The collar here doesn’t have a ring to drag the girl around, this outfit can be both for Dominant and submissive woman.
Breast area – are the nipples exposed? Is the breast harness constructed to expose and restrict the wearer, or to demonstrate and protect from unwanted glimpse and maybe even make them impossible to be touched or squeezed. This bondage harness with spikes is a perfect example of Dominatrix outfit.
Cuffs and arms restraints – how restrictive is the BDSM outfit? Leather cuffs and straps around arms are a good indication as who to buy the harness for. Also bear in mind that some delicate studded straps around wrists can be considered as decorative element, not restraints. You can be reassured the straps in this bdsm harness are actually arms restraints not decoration 😛
Buttocks straps – probably the most confusing area of the harness, as exposed ass is well good for worshiping as much as spanking, so be careful here. Watch out for spikes, covering of genital areas and overall character of the whole design. There are often rings, splits and cut outs incorporated into intimate parts for easy penetration. This leather g-string is a great example:
Pegging option – is the harness designed to accommodate a dildo for pegging? Maybe it already has a dildo attached. Look out for rings or plain smooth leather in the lower abdominal area. An extreme pegging harness can have not one but three dildos – two of them are to be enjoyed by the wearer like in this absolute leather body with 3 dildos, named after famous Mistress Absolute.
Anyway – if in doubt, best ask Joanna Lark for opinion in this matter. Email me or leave your comment here, I am happy to help ? Personally I like to be consulted before my boy buys me a gift, so you don’t be scared to ask your second half about their fantasies and likings, you may be surprised! Better buy bondage harness for her that will take you both to another level.
